18 things travellers are sick of hearing, and the perfect responses for them

If you’ve ever travelled, whether it be around your own country or to the other side of the world, you’ve probably heard a few things from certain people that just make you cringe.

It’s annoying and frustrating when people just don’t get how this travel thing works. It’s not all sunshine and cocktails on the beach, sometimes it’s hard but it’s worth every sacrifice and we make it work. I know you mean well…. but we know what we’re doing.

Here’s a list of what not to say to a traveller, and a few responses for those of us who hear them.

“Oh, you’re going on holiday… again?”

*slap them in the face with your stamped filled passport*

“But how do you afford it?”

I work really bloody hard, ok? I sacrifice unimportant things like drinking and shopping sprees. I have priorities, I know I’m working towards something amazing.

“Your parents must be loaded.”

Yea they are. Compared to me. They’re real adults.

“Are your parents paying for this?”

No, remember how hard I said I worked? (but if your parents are paying for your trip then that’s amazing too!)

“I wish I could do it…”

Unless you have a genuine reason why you cannot physically leave your house then you can. You don’t have to spend a lot of money or even leave the country to travel.

“…but I have a job/boyfriend/kid”

Take a long weekend off, or quit your job if you’re feeling rebellious. Take your other half with you or go solo. Take your kid with you, or leave them at home with grandma for a few days. You can make it work.

“Wow, you’re so lucky!”

No, winning the lottery is lucky. Finding a dollar on the floor is lucky. Travelling is a mix of hard work and privilege, and there’s a huge difference.

“Why are you going alone?”

Because that is, in my opinion, the BEST way to travel. You have the freedom to do what you want when you want and you meet so many people along the way.

“It’s not safe in…”

SHUT UP RIGHT NOW. I get that some places can be dangerous, especially for female travellers, but if I hear one more person tell me that places like India are too dangerous to visit I will punch them in the face.

“But you’re a girl?”

*grabs boobs* WHAT!? Since when? I never, ever noticed that…

“You’re too young/old for this!”

And you’re too young/old to know better but here we are.

“Aren’t you scared?”

Yes, sometimes I am. It can be terrifying, but it’s also exciting, eye-opening, magical and a whole bunch of other positive things.

“Aren’t you lonely?”

Also yes, sometimes. It’s hard to make real connections when you’re drifting from one place to another, but my friends and family are just a phone call away.

“I haven’t been but…/My aunt’s friend’s brother went and….”

No one wants to hear your uneducated opinion on something you have never experienced for yourself.

“When are you going to grow up?”

Sorry, I didn’t realise fun had an age limit.

“When are you going to settle down?”

When are you going to learn that people don’t have to get married, get a mortgage and have two kids by the time they’re 30?

“What are you running away from?”

A monotonous life, and it’s working.

“You shouldn’t be wasting your life like this…”

Whoever says this to you needs to leave immediately. You don’t need this kind of negativity in your life.

“Why do you do it?”

Why the hell not?

“How was your trip?”

Thank you for pretending, but we all know that you don’t really care that I climbed the highest mountain in Australia or swam with sharks in Belize. All you want me to say is “Fine thanks, how have you been?”. Unless you’ve also travelled. Or you’re my mum.

The sad thing is, I have heard all of these at least once. I’m pretty sure most of us have!

Is there anything that you’ve heard that makes you frustrated or sad to hear as a traveller? Leave a comment below and help us educate the uneducated!

22 thoughts on “18 things travellers are sick of hearing, and the perfect responses for them

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  1. Without fail every time I travel My family tells me, “you know you should really put that money towards bills instead of a week of play.” My response always is, I’ve been saving up for this, putting a little money away at a time. Not spending it on random things. I’m not going to spend my life sitting behind a desk working and regretting the thing I didn’t do. I want to have excitement and adventures in my life, something to look back on and be proud of.

    1. It’s very hard when these kind of things come from family because you KNOW they only mean well! But YOU know exactly what you’re doing and what you need to do to keep yourself happy! You have an amazing outlook on life so keep it up and keep doing you ❤

  2. It is the random pick up and go, leave the cell and laptop at home, toss a tent and some junk in the car kind of trips that upset my people. So when I get back… I leave again the next day for somewhere else.

    1. Oh but they’re the best kind of trips I think! Just totally spontaneous! It’s good to always be on the move 🙄

  3. you forgot about all the comments that people with kids hear (: for example “why are you taking him so far away from home? what if he gets sick?” or “why are you leaving him with your parents? what kid of mother are you?”. list goes on. the point is: people will ALWAYS find something to complain about.

    1. These are all excellent points! Bur as I don’t have one of my own I feel very underqualified to try and guess the kind of stuff you hear! I can imagine it’s even worse!!!

  4. Since I don’t have any kids either, I always get “if I didn’t have the kid(s), I’d be able to do that too.”
    First of all, nothing stopping you! Like you said, bring the kids, leave them with someone, do whatever you have to do!
    Second, I am sorry you are jealous of my trips but you made your choices and I have made mine! Please don’t try and make me feel bad because I can afford to do whatever I want since I work my butt off every single day of my life!

    1. Haha you are so correct! It’s mostly just jealousy or confusion I think… People should never make you feel bad for your life choices just because they wish they could have done the same!

  5. I have been asked a handful of times “have you ever been kidnaped or thought you would be” my answer ” I was once kidnaped by a group of Chilean yoga instructors and forced to swim with bioluminescent plankton at night”. So yes, stay away from flexible people!

    1. I love long weekends away! I think it’s a great way to travel because you can do it with a little more luxury than a long backpacking trip!

  6. Ha ha ha! I get so many of these… a lot of times.
    But the people who ask these questions are (in the best case) typical tourists who revisit the same place year after year… again and again: the same destination.
    It’s odd how it sounds: “you’re going on holiday again?”… yet, traveling seriously is rather about working, learning and implicates a lot of risk… so far from the “common tourist’s” goals and activities.

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